Saturday, March 29, 2008

Well folks, I've gone on a long journey but I'm happy to say "That's the end of that chapter...". My parents have been keeping up with this blog since the very beginning of it all those months ago, and frankly, they're tired. It's a constant worry on their minds; mostly my Mom's... sorry Dad. I guess I can say now that I'm home, it has been a long journey, but I am currently writing this from my basement at my house: I'm home.

Now that I say that if you ALL came over for "just a short visit" I'm sure I would be entertaining you all until I actually left this house. And then of course you would all feel that you needed to welcome me in there and we're back at square one. The specialists at the rehab center also warned me about over-stimulation. They said it would slow down my healing process. So I need to make this very clear, DO NOT stop by without asking us. Not if you had a new car and you wanted to take me for a super-fast drive, NO. Not if you were getting married and for some reason you felt as if you needed my blessing, NO. Not if you had a new baby and you just wanted me to meet them for a quick bit, NO. Keep in mind that if I met everyone who read this blog and learned just one thing about them, I'd be old! That's not to say that we are annoyed that the blog has gotten this much attention, in fact we are positively gleeful that I'm that important to you. That being said what began as being a tool for the destruction of lies about my situation has been turned into really serving your needs. It had to be said. Now I'm sure bad things will happen to me at some point in the rest of my life, but that kinda stuff happens in life, we ALL have to learn to pull our belts tight, hitch up our packs and move on.

That being said I'm sure the memory of Brandon will never leave us, it certainly will never leave me. Sometimes I am quite sure I can still hear his laugh, or see him smile... he's keeping me safe now, I can say that I have my own personal guardian angel. Not many can say that, not many can say they survived a brain injury either. The point is as my parents often tell me, "He's got your 6", and it's true! I can go happily through the rest of my life never afraid 'cause I got someone up there who's pulling for me. Brandon, he'll be close to us for the rest of time, there constantly when you're all alone I know... he'll be there. When you are surrounded by friends... he'll be there. And when I finally graduate, and it's my turn to walk across the stage and get that diploma... well I'm sure he'll be there. So really he'll never leave us, he has made himself immortal... and I, we, will NEVER forget him. So as a final message to him: Brandon, thank you for pulling me through that. It will be hard to go on without you but that's what you'd want, you'd want me to have a happy life full of good memories and as Mom always says, "he's up there kicking our asses!". Finally thank you Brandon, for teaching me so much about life, and sadly death, I'm pretty sure you'd have to look pretty far to find a 17 year old with as much life experience as I have. Thank you Brandon, thank you from the bottom of my heart. Thank you.

So I am very sorry to say this, but this will be the last entry for a very VERY long time. Now I was a bit distressed when my parents told me this, but they're right, it's time for us all to get past this and leave it as a memory. I'll write on this the odd time, but take this as a farewell, time to get on with my life. And thank you for being involved and reading this blog and keeping up to date. This is my last chance to thank you all at once so, THANK YOU!!! (And my Mom and Dad thank you too) Well my friends, this is the end of this chapter and at camp we'd probably sing 'Lean On Me' or 'Will Our Friendships Be Unbroken'. So whenever you hum those tunes think of me, and how you are a good person because you helped, you really did. Well I won't say goodbye, I'll say see you later......

Your friend,
Jared

19 comments:

Anonymous said...

All the best Jared. Live your second chance at life in a way that will make Brandon proud. Be happy in chapter 2,no looking in the rearview mirror, live life with joy. Our prayers will continue for you & your parents. God Bless. Love to all.

Ellen & Dave Grant said...

Dear Jared
I sit here reading your blog feeling sad because I wont hear from you-elated that you are home at last where you belong-sad because we all will miss your special Brother Brandon but knowing he is your Special Guardian Angel watching over you makes all us all smile-estactic for your Mom and Dad to have you home under their roof again-overjoyed that you are writing such a beautiful farewell message to us all and it is elegantly written..wow..you are so smart and know how to write things on paper-(Better than me).
You truly are an inspiration Jared to us all who have been watching you grow each day-fight your daily battles of emotions and learn to adapt to what ever life is throwing your way..we all love that you have been given a new chance in life and that your brain injury has improved and will continue to as well..you are here for a reason and someday you will show us all how to live life to the fullest and be proud to say we know you.."For hope is but the dream of those that wake."
Jared this not farewell but WELCOME HOME and we shall all respect your wishes as we KNOW that you NEED YOUR REST and will call when time is right..you need time to grieve-time to readjust-time to laugh and time to just be YOU and be with Mom and Dad under one roof...
WAY TO JARED-you are remarkable and dont ever forget that-we are always here if you need a boost or a kick in the pants to get moving..

WELCOME HOME JARED WELCOME HOME

Much love and Prayers
Ellen Dave & Family

Ellen & Dave Grant said...

:The man who makes a success of an important venture never wails for the crowd. He strikes out for himself. It takes nerve, it takes a great lot of grit; but the man that succeeds has both. Anyone can fail. The public admires the man who has enough confidence in himself to take a chance. These chances are the main things after all. The man who tries to succeed must expect to be criticized. Nothing important was ever done but the greater number consulted previously doubted the possibility. Success is the accomplishment of that which most people think can't be done."

C. V. White

Elliott said...

Nice to hear you are home. I wish you and your parents the best and thank you for sharing your amazing story with us everyday for the last few monthes. Take care.

Unknown said...

Those songs do always make me think of you.
I'm so glad, so very glad every time I hear good news.
It must be good to be home. My thoughts and prayers are still with you and your family, and I wish you the best, really I do.
Sincerely,
Laura Morash

Bruce Welton said...

Jared,We are so pleased with your progress, It has been uplifting to follow this blog and to follow your suscess story in your recovery.The healing process will only go smoother now that you are home. As for your brain injury, following your outstanding writing in your blog I think perhaps I am the one with the brain injury!
You are "one" very special young man with a second chance and I know in my heart you will suceed in what ever you put your mind to! Remember Brandon just like you wrote, he will allways be your brother and Jane & Gary's second son.I know your parents are extremly proud for you and how to worked threw this awleful ordeal, they also are terrific people and deserve a huge hug from God as well!
Jared take care and please let us all know from time to time of your progress.

We are all pround of you!!!!

Dorian & Pat said...

Dear Gary, Jane & Jared....Oh My! How wonderful to hear that you are home....I am sitting hear reading this so eloquently written blog and the tears are streaming down my face....but, they are tears of happiness and relief...that you are again home with your mom and dad and getting on with your life...yes, Brandon is no doubt..your very own guardian angel and he will always be by your side to guide and help you along life's journey...you are sooo smart, Jared..and I know the future holds nothing but good things for you..you've already been thru the worst...we'll always have you in our hearts and prayers along with your Mom and Dad...thank you so much for giving us this venue to watch you heal and to heal ourselves also...take care and much love
Dorian & Pat

Unknown said...

Hi Jared,

Thank you so very much for teaching us all about what is truly important in this life. You have be met more challenges in your young life than most of us in our lifetime. You are such an awesome, kind, loving, humorous, smart young man beyond your years. Pat yourself on the back with Mom and Dad's help for all your of amazing achievements, "You" Made Them Happen!!!!! with your best friend looking down and watching over you "Every Step of the Way". Jared, you are a very special person who has taught us a lot and we know you will continue to do so. God has a special plan for you.

You are in our thoughts every day,
Donna, Rob, Jason and Chris

Lucy said...

I am so happy I know you Jared.

Much Sherbrooke love,

- Lucy Scholey

Anonymous said...

"The block of granite that is an obstacle in the pathway of the weak becomes a stepping-stone in the pathway of the strong." - Thomas Carlyle

JARED:
Thank you for giving all the proof in the world that this is true. You are strong, you will be strong, you have been so strong. You have used what so many would have considered an impossible obstacle as a stepping stone... No! A leaping stone! I am, as so many others, continuing to pray for your continued healing. Keep smiling!

Courtney Harris

Anonymous said...

God bless you all! My love and prayers will continue with you even if I can't read about your progress each day! L, Joelle

Unknown said...

it was so good to see you both today!!! I heart stopped when i say you too!! I love you 3 so much and you have touched me in so many ways!!!

HUGGS

Chris maher

D said...

All the best Jared

Ellen & Dave Grant said...

Dear Jane Gary & Jared
Jared you look awesome and so full of smiles- it is nice to see you out and about..but I had to write just to say I miss you all and all the comments you got each day..

Hope all is well and we will visit soon

Much love and prayers

Ellen Dave & family

Unknown said...

Hi Jared,
Well it is almost a month since you came home. I hope things are continuing to improve with you. You are a strong young man,slowly with all the support you have, things will work out.
Our son Alan has another neuro-phic test done on Tues. It is 2 yrs. since his accident,think we will see a big improvment from the one he first had. It is an all day testing.
Take care of yourself and continue to get your rest. Hope your arm came along as well.
Ruth Dwyer Maccan

Ellen & Dave Grant said...

Hi Jared
I dont know if you still read this but I had to say hi again as it is almost 2 months since you arrived home and are doing remarkably well..WAY TO GO
I just had to tell you that my oldest is living in Halifax now and guess what-because of you she is now working at he REHAB centre in Halifax or I should say volunteering..she loved the IWK but this is more along the lines of what she wants to ..so thanks
HAPPY APPLE BLOSSOM
Much love and prayers
Ellen Dave & Family

Unknown said...

Hi Jared, It has been a long time since anyone has heard from you, have been wondering how you are doing, and how will you be spending your summer.
Just to let you know our son Alan did very well on his nuro-physic test,big improvement over 2 yrs.
So, were you might think you are @ a stand still, there will always be improvements. You might not see it, but other people do.
Take care, and say hi to your parents for me. ruth_dwyer@hotmail.com

Brenda Waye said...

Jared, thank you for such an inspirational farewell note. I have been watching your progress from the sidelines, but you havent been out of our prayers and thoughts. I have seen your parents on occasion, spoken with your father a time or two. With respect for you all, I am going to remove myself from this group.
It is time for you to look to the future, to grow as the person you have become. These groups are like you said in your note, a selfish way for us to keep in touch and informed of your progress. Your parents need a rest from the chore this must have become. Time for them to put this all to rest as well, and just concentrate on their family time with you now that you are home.
So with respect and love, I too will say farewell. Just know that you will always remain in our hearts, our prayers and our thoughts.
Remain positive in your journey, and remember that time heals all wounds.
With love and respect to you all,
Steve & Brenda Waye

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